how to baby dance?

hola!

i got few friends, asking me on tips on how to make a baby. ok, that sounds weird. everyone knows how to make baby! never mind. before you keep on reading, please understand these:

• this is my personal view only, based on my experience
  
• i'm writing this for sharing purpose. does not mean i am so pandai. i just thought that this is good to be shared with.

actually there are a lot of books and sites for you to refer. but here i can list out some of the important points.

before you plan to conceive

• know yourself. track your menstrual cycle. are they regular? if yes, good. if not, seek dr's advice.
• practice healthy diet. consume more green. YOU AND YOUR PARTNER. pergi paksa dia makan sayur! jangan makan asam jeruk, air gas. jajan and fast food, kurangkan. ask him to quit smoking if he does, kalau boleh.
• TAKE ACID FOLIC at least 3 months before planning to conceive. so perantin yang plan nak bunting pelamin, pergi beli cepat eh. hihi
  
• make sure you have enough calcium intake.
• check your BMI. too fat or too thin? get your ideal BMI back.
• if rajin, get a pre pregnancy check up with gynae. do not go to GP.
• spend time to READ
  

sounds paranoid? well, tuhan pun suruh usaha. so tak salah usaha. selebihnya tuhan punya kerja.

in my case, my period was every 28 days every month. so it was quite easy to track my fertile days. and i actually used my cycle for my family planning masa tu.

masa jumpa gynae, she scanned my uterus and even told me which ovum ovulates that month. hihi. so masa after conceive i secretly told the boys where to go. go left go left! haha!

pre pregnancy is important if you are worry takut ada cysts ke apa. because ada kes, tiba2 pregnant and ada fibroid then you will have to choose which to let go. or just to see if you are ready or healthy to make a baby. then the dr will help you to determine your fertile days and give some tips.

i'll never forget what my gynae told me when i had my check up. you are a healthy and young lady, and so ready to make a baby. just do your best and ask from the man above. and, make sure you can grab your hubby during these days! hehe sebab my hubby was not in town most of days. nasib je masa tu dia tak OS. hihi

during conception (malu nak tulis)

• make sure it is your fertile day! selalu hari ke 14. so you can work on 10, 12, 16 and 18. this is because ovum stays for 1 day but sperm for 3 days (sperm DSAI je bertahan lebih lama). so in between those, boleh la sangkut mana2 insya allah. if the boys are early, they will wait for the babe. hehe vice versa lah.
  
• solat hajat sebelum itu, minta dengan tuhan
• baca doa
  
• bersopan
• enjoy yourselves. hihih jangan stress!
  
• do not wash yourself immediately after finishing. relax. elevate your waist below body. easiest way, letak bantal kecil bawah punggung. or put your legs 90 deg on the wall. paham ke? (unless if you are like saiful tu, berak pun lekat berhari2)
  

after conception

• jaga makan. ikut jela macam orang kata. nenas, tebu, asam2. dont take lah.
  
• jangan angkat barang berat.
• berdoa berdoa berdoa
  

i guess that's it! bukan lah i cakap buat macam ni terus dapat baby. ini usaha sahaja. memanglah ada orang tak payah pun acid folic ke apa ke. sihat je baby. tapi ini yang dr recommend. tuhan pun suruh usaha. maka tak salah.

kalau tak dapat lagi, usaha lagi. banyak cara lagi. if you have been trying for more than 6 months, tapi tak dapat lagi, then BOTH should seek dr's advice. sangat pantang lah if orang keep blaming the women.

this involve 2 parties. and menurut dr hamid arshad, 40% of infertility adalah disebabkan oleh perempuan, 40% lelaki dan 20% adalah both! so it is very unfair kalau asyik nak salahkan the lady je kan.

both husband and wife kena kerja keras dan support each other. jangan stress dan jangan pedulikan orang luar. kalau tengah planning, enjoy! jangan percaya cakap planning nanti lambat dapat baby. hehe

kalau lambat dapat pun tak apa. tuhan tahu apa yang the best for us. yang penting usaha doa tawakal.

just to share, my cousin, she is now 10 weeks pregnant after 5 years being married. alhamdulillah. dah macam2 usaha. ivf tak jalan. last2 dia plan nak ambik anak angkat.

tapi ni tiba2 dia preggie. ya allah bersyukur sangat2. the whole family is so happy for her. :)

so, tuhan lebih tahu the right time to give. kita usaha dan doa sahaja. allah knows best!

oh yes, you can read my story here :) flashback sikit. hehe

good luck! my prayer is with you, untuk tambah umat muhammad SAW. insya allah :)

adakah merandung?

baiklah bersambung.

haha.

so, my pre-pregnancy program went well. (tipu. bukanlah religiously buat. hehe) and we decided to stop planning on may. so after may period, we were on TTC!

memang berdebar2 tunggu bulan 6 nak tengok period ke tak. a week before my period was due, i felt so very tired. especially petang2 and malam. selalu lepas masak dinner tak sabar2 nak makan. ini boleh tidur pulak kan dulu. pastu baru makan.

pastu asik mengidam sup tulang. haha. sungguh ngada2.

pastu masa naik kereta, ada xtra ayam bbq after family gathering. i dengan diktatornya mengarahkan berhenti dan buang ayam tu. sekali tengok ayam tu ok je! haha busuk tu i sorang je yang bising. orang lain relax je. huhuh

masa tu ummy cakap, ke dah lekat awak niii?

walaupun badan dah rasa macam lain macam, tapi still in denial. sebab tak nak bagi false hope kat diri sendiri.

bila hubby was commenting something on my err physical changes, i macam, well maybe i'm just getting fatter. haha.

B pun selalu comfortkan, it's okay kalau tak lekat lagi. there's always next time. kita usaha je.

pastu pulak tak ada tanda2 period nak datang.

dup dup dup.

hari sepatut period tak ada pun bila check spender. hih

jeng jeng.

bila lepas lewat period 4 hari, i tiba2 rasa lenguh pinggang and sakit breasts. oh no. masa ni ingat dah nak period ke apa.

terus tanya mira. dia kata dia pun check masa 4 hari lewat. so dia pun encourage i beli HPT.

lepas tu beli HPT. tak sabar nak tunggu 1 week lambat sebab masa tu je B ada kat rumah. lepas tu dia out station. so i beli yang murahan je pun tapi yang detect hCG level 3 days before period due.

malam tidur asik tersedar2 sekali tengok belum pagi. cis. dah pagi je berdezuppp i bangun kencing! eleh selalu bunyi alarm asik snooze je kannn. hihi

lepas tu test. berdebar2 lagi dasat daripada masa nak nikah.

lepas tu jeng jeng jenggg double line!!!!

alhamdulillah!

terus menkejutkan hubby yang tengah tidur. b, hunny pregnant!! dia macam, hah yeke? alhamdulillah. blur2 gitu. hih

then i cakap kat abah later, tahniah abah bakal jadi datok. dia blur2 speechless. then ummy pulak, ummy bakal jadi nenek! punya menlompat beliau memeluk aku. haha.

after that, i waited few more days until B balik dari out station untuk buat check up dengan gynae. nak confirmkan.

scan2 nampaklah kantung baby itu. so happy! masa tu 5 weeks pregnant.

so far dah 2kali scan baby. 2nd time was last week. nampak jantung dia kelip2. subhanallah.

i am now 7 weeks pregnant :)

EDD is on 22022011, insya allah. (macam plat number kereta daddy dia eh triple 2. haha macamlah beranak dan2 date tu.)

tuhan, terima kasih atas kurniaanmu... alhamdulillah. hanya kau sahaja yang tahu betapa bersyukurnya kami.

semua orang yang doakan, terima kasih. semoga allah berkati kalian dan menjawab segala doa2mu. aminnn.

doakan me and baby baik2 aja yah!

more updates on me being pregnant, up next.

take care everyone!

my pre-pregnancy program

saja nak share :)

so we were married on december last year and was on family planning. we decided to plan for some reasons.

no drugs, no other preventive equipment pun. berhati2 sahaja. :p

tapi of course, dalam masa rancang, kalau tiba2 eksiden, dengan terbukanyaaaa kami menerima. siapa tak nak rezeki kan? :)

biasalah certain orang yang tahu kita planning, mencemuh. tapi ada yang support. nasib baik my family okay. supportive, sentiasa percaya rezeki kat tuhan dan doakan yang baik. begitu juga dengan kawan2 baik, especially yang plan jugak.

kadang2 bila orang tanya i cakap je belum rezeki. dan memang secara langsung dapat pelbagai nasihat untuk jumpa dr, buat itu ini, makan itu ini. errr thanks thanks thanks....

okay let's not talk about that. i just nak share what did i do for my pre-pregnancy program.

3 months before we plan to conceive i do below things:

• read and research. i read what to expect before you are expecting by heidi murkoff and few articles from the net. banyak lagi buku lain kalau rajin sila beli. hihi
  
• build up calcium by increasing milk intake. before ni malas je nak minum selalu. so i took anlene at least once a day. patut twice! tapi ada gak lupa2. haha
  
• acid folic intake. note: very important!
• mensuruh suami jaga makan. no carbonated drink, eat veges more. more fish. of course dia bising tapi i lagi bising kalau dia tak nak ikut. haha
• pre-pregnancy check up.
• work out. haha kononlah rajin sangatttt
  
• berdoa berdoa berdoa

memang ada yang kata, even my hubby pun cakap i paranoid. siap nak wat check up semua kan. dia jadi bising macam ni lepas mula2 i jumpa sorang gynae ni. bila i kata nak buat pre-pregnancy check up, dia tak nak buat. gelak2 lagi. cakap i risau sangat. my period regulate, for every 28 days, so there's nothing to worry about bla bla. mmm okay fineeeeee

so i tak puas hati so jumpa lagi sorang gynae. haha. as suggested by anil. dia sangat okay. tak ada pun gelak2 kan i tauuu

well memang certain orang cakap tak payah semua2 ni. tapi kan prevention is better than cure. i pernah dengar kes orang ni ada fibroid ke apa ke. pastu pregnant susah pulak. so kalau boleh, mintak lah jauh. certainly, not everyone is lucky.

alhamdulillah mine went well. the gynae said. you are a healthy young lady. only 2 things now. make sure your husband is around when the time comes and pray hard to the man above.

mind you hubby is not always around since dia selalu out station. so hari2 penting2 tu hehe kena make sure he's grabbed! haha

me and hubby always loveee babies. hubby dah lama push2 i cepat2 nak baby. especially bila lepas dia main2 dengan anak2 kawan2 kitaorg ke, anak2 sedara ke. i mesti dah dapat agak mesti balik nanti dia cakap, hunny nak baby nak babyyyy. hahaha

apa boleh buat, dia terpaksa mengikut program paranoid bini dia. hihi. terima kasih kerana bersabar ya!

apa2 pun. kita ni hanya merancang. tuhan yang tentukan. kalau tuhan bagi at first trial, alhamdulillah. kalau later than that, ada sebab dia. kita sebagai hamba mesti percaya tuhan tu maha mengetahui dan maha pemurah.

yang penting kita usaha, doa dan tawakal.

to be continued... :)

eh eh drama nampakkkk hahahhaha!